All children are different!

If you look at the families you know, the children are likely to be all different, with a different appearance and nature than their brothers and sisters. Very often you will notice a pattern according to their position in the family. The firstborn may be more considerate and reserved, the middle child may be quite different, while the youngest may be outgoing, fearless and adventurous.

At one point, my husband decided that he would run an equestrian center and a pony riding center. The foster children had returned to their mother, who had later remarried, so we only had 3 children again. The children thrived on the fresh air and freedom, but my 4-year-old daughter was unafraid and if someone sat her on any of the horses or ponies she would happily ride through the countryside. Thelwell style.

On another occasion, without being overtaken by the older boys, she climbed onto the scaffolding of the adjacent apartment block, swinging to the next railing, and went up and up, but could not get down because her legs did not reach the steps; she had to be rescued quickly by my husband. She would climb anywhere and everywhere completely without fear. While my oldest daughter was much more afraid of horses and my son did not approach them and was much happier on his bike. This illustrates how different children can be.

Different dynamics within the family group can also affect the characteristics of your children. For example, you may be strict with your first child as you adjust to parenthood, while later you may be more relaxed. The presence of other children or whether you have more or less time to spend with them can also make a difference. Also, of course, everyone has their own traits and there is the age-old question of nature or nurture. Your main job as a parent is to develop a child’s own strengths and guide him to be the best he can be; and to become healthy and happy adults responsible for their own actions.

It would be a boring world if we were all the same, imagine if we all thought the same and acted in the same way. We would all be looking for the same jobs. You will soon learn to understand your little ones and how they will react. Accept their differences and enjoy their different characters, help them develop in their own way and become members of a diverse society.

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