You definitely loved him, but now he’s gone. He may have left you for another girl or simply said he needed time to think. Whatever your reason, chances are it just doesn’t make sense to you. If your boyfriend left you, there is only one thing you can do about it, and that is do everything you can to get him back.
It may seem impossible at this point, especially if you have fallen in love with someone else. But no matter the circumstances, you can get your ex back if you try. Chances are, you’ve already made a few attempts to get it back, but none of which have obviously worked. Since your boyfriend left you, you will have to convince him to believe that what he did was a big mistake. This does not mean that you call him on the phone and tell him this, but what you are going to do is make him feel that way.
How are you going to do that exactly? Doing it calmly. Stop making obsessive phone calls right now. All exes seem to develop this destructive habit almost automatically. What you don’t realize is that obsessive calls, texts, and emails extend your chances of getting back together. When your boyfriend left you, it was a clear sign that the relationship was over, but only for now.
When a relationship comes to an end, that’s it for that round. Relationships can always start over, but they must do so naturally. Think about the first time he and you got together. Did you go up to him and say, “I love you so much! Please stay with me because I can’t live without you!” Or did you just let things unfold without force? Think about it. You cannot force a relationship. There will be another time to start over, but that time is not now. You have to focus on winning their interest and attention again, and you have to do it in a very subtle way. Work on yourself. If there’s something you’ve been putting off, like getting a degree, shedding a few pounds, getting a new haircut, take this time to indulge yourself. You deserve it.
Once you stop making obsessive calls, he will start thinking about you more. Thoughts of you will start to cross his mind when he hears certain songs, smells certain scents, and sees certain people. This is something that occurs naturally without force. In the meantime, you’re going to be enjoying your life as a single woman, or at least you’re going to do your best to appear that way. Leave him alone, that’s the only way. If you share mutual friends, don’t tell them anything but great things about your life. Remember that your boyfriend left you and he will wonder why you are so happy now.
It won’t be long after you start acting happy and positive that he starts wondering what’s going on with you. If you are with someone else, don’t worry, the “novelty” of your current relationship will quickly wear off, especially when you hear that you are now happy without him. Guys can’t stand that kind of thing. They want what seems to be out of reach, that is what attracts them.
So go ahead, hang out with your friends and don’t be afraid to be happy! Even though your boyfriend left you, it’s not the end of the world. You will have your chance with him again.
