She used to get really wet when you had sex with her. But lately she seems to have trouble getting wet. What can you do to get her juices flowing again?
Why do women experience decreased lubrication? There are many factors that can affect female sexual desire. Some factors are obvious, while others are definitely not. Age, life, energy level, and hormones all play a role in increasing female libido and if one or more of those factors aren’t working right, your libido could take a nosedive.
How to make it wet and how you can help
(1) Make her feel comfortable
A large part of a woman’s sexual satisfaction depends a lot on her mood. She must feel sexy to feel sexual. If she’s not in the mood, find out what she has in mind. It is good to open the door of communication to allow you to vent some of the day’s frustrations, allowing you to relax and let go. Also, you can tell that she is actually upset with you and keeping your ears open and staying calm will ensure a much more favorable response from her.
Instead of reacting to what she isn’t doing for you, think about what you can do for her. Something as simple as giving him your shoulder to cry on is enough. You can also give her a bottle of her favorite wine so she can relax over dinner. Well, having a woman drunk can always make her horny and want to have sex. After dinner, you can give her a back massage or a foot massage. When she is physically and mentally relaxed, you can start touching her. This will show her that you are a considerate lover who is more concerned with including her in sex, rather than using her to get yours.
(2) Be patient during foreplay
Female lubrication begins with hormones that send signals to the brain, causing it to become sexually aroused enough to “wake up” the clitoris and vagina to be ready for sex. The inner and outer lips of the vagina will swell. Later, the vaginal walls and labia that have those little glands called vulvovaginals will start to secrete fluid to allow penetration.
Female arousal typically takes longer than male arousal, so foreplay is crucial. Your brain needs to feel sexy for your body to feel sexy. Keep things slow and steady to allow for more non-sexual touching, kissing, and caressing to allow her to become more fully aroused.
Go and kiss her whole body. Kissing and caressing two places at the same time creates wonderful stimulation. When touching her, don’t forget that a woman has many erogenous zones all over her body that also crave attention. Feel free to rub, kiss, and even nibble on those neglected sexually sensitive areas that can be found on your cheeks, ears, back of your neck, the insides of your elbows and knees, and buttocks. Remember to take your time and read her body language. There are certain areas that may be more sensitive or receptive to her stimulation for her and you should spend more time and effort on them.
(3) Give her manual and oral stimulation before intercourse
Start by arousing her with manual and/or oral stimulation of the clitoris. Make sure your clitoral shaft, clitoris, and labia get plenty of action with your hand and tongue. A good move is to grab the skin around the clitoris and rub it.
Continue clitoral stimulation as you reach for her G-spot. If you have trouble doing two things at once, you can hold a vibrator at the lower end of the vaginal opening that responds very well to stimulation. If the vibrations are too strong, you can place a towel or cloth between the vibrator and the vaginal opening to decrease the intensity.
How to stimulate the g-spot? Bend two fingers slightly with palms facing up, and then insert them about two inches in/up from the vaginal opening. If you’re not sure, ask her if there is a specific spot or area that gives her intense or pleasurable sensations when you massage it, which is her G-spot. When you feel yourself getting closer to orgasm, apply a firmer touch, if she enjoys it. Keep a steady, steady rhythm until she reaches orgasm. Then switch to a very light stroking touch as she comes down from her orgasm. If she experiences multiple orgasms, her orgasms and ejaculations may become more intense and she will lubricate a lot. If she has an orgasm with your fingers inside her vagina, the vaginal muscles can squeeze them very hard and when this happens, don’t pull them out, but gently press on them.
(4) Have sex regularly
Frequent caresses of the clitoris and vulva will activate the nerve pathways that carry sexual stimulation to the brain. These nerves that are responsible for sexual arousal will weaken if there is little or no use for any length of time. Don’t just wait for the urge to come and have sex. If we always wait for this to happen, some of us may never have sex again. Sometimes it’s important to just do it even if you’re not in the mood. Once the ball starts rolling, desire and arousal often follow. Therefore, having sex regularly will get your juices flowing naturally.
