I had a conversation with a close friend this week who says he’s pro-abortion, to
a measure He continued for some time to share his views on abortion with me. While the
was talking I realized something very important – unless he is the father of the
fetus, what he says doesn’t really matter because he’s a man.
It really steams me up when a man sits down judging a woman who has had a
abortion. I just don’t see how a man can talk about this topic at all. why should men
need to establish any kind of position at all on an issue that is clearly feminine by
nature? I know many are already walking away from this article out of fear of hellfire.
However, think about it, there are several reasons why men should not have a say in
what women do with their bodies.
Congratulations sir, you are pregnant
For example, men have never had to face the decision of whether or not to allow
a child to grow within them. They have never been in a position to reconcile the
gift of life with the invasion of life. In fact, a man can get a woman pregnant and
walk away, which is exactly what many have done. If a man can have the right to
choose whether she wants the responsibility of parenthood, shouldn’t the woman
do they have the same choice regarding maternity?
Men have never been in the position of having a foreign object grow in their
bodies and being told that it would be immoral to want that object removed. men can’t
It is related to the feeling of personal invasion caused by an unwanted pregnancy or
the fears of being a single mother. The woman’s body is used as a container for life,
but it must be the decision of each woman if she wants to be a recipient in
that point in his life.
Daddy’s not here, honey
Another reason why men should not have a say on the issue of abortion is that, since
dawn of time women have borne most of the burden of raising children while
man pursues his own interests in life. Meanwhile, the wife is tied to the home to
raise the children they both fathered. Men can’t relate to the suffocating feeling
that comes from being subject to living a life as the primary caregiver. In fact,
there should be no primary caregiver at all, it should be a shared responsibility.
However, when the father is not present, the woman has no choice.
The woman knows what it will mean for her personal life to have a child (and yes, her
life matters too). Sometimes the changes are welcome, other times the future
It’s very scary. A man can get on with his life, his career and his own interests.
little concern for his future other than having to prepare the baby’s crib before
the mother goes into labor, if that much. However, the sacrifices of the mother and
the responsibilities are endless and she knows how important it is to raise children who
They are productive members of society. She can’t miss, even if he shrugs it off.
responsibilities.
Basically, men have ceded parental responsibilities to women and have walked
far. Even the best-intentioned parent gets involved in a small part of the
parenting responsibilities. Women, with no choice but to raise children
since the father is engaged in his career, or whatever it is that men do when
they are not home with their families, they are forced into a situation that may not even be
what that woman needs to thrive in life. She doesn’t have a choice.
Does man care that his selfishness may have a detrimental impact on the
wife? No. She is doing what society expects of her and he is doing what he wants.
wants. It’s especially hard for women these days when so many men just
abandon their parental responsibilities completely and leave the woman completely
just to raise the child as a single parent. Even when a parent is physically close,
many times he is not close emotionally. But then again, the woman has no choice.
it takes two
The reason it takes both a man and a woman to produce a child is because nature
She knew that it would take both a man and a woman to raise that child. when the man
shrugs off his paternal obligation, the woman is left with a burden that was not meant to be
be supported by only one person.
Many conservatives believe that women get pregnant recklessly and then resort to abortion
as birth control. This is just a tactic used to justify imposing your morals on
other people. Anyone who has been inside an abortion clinic knows that abortion is
always a last resort for women. It’s a desperate move to solve a desperate problem.
it is not a routine action.
What’s even more ironic is that many times these conservatives would be the first to
take her daughter to the abortion clinic just to save face if she ended up with a
unwanted pregnancy. So they have the audacity to condemn women who
chose not to have a baby because they couldn’t afford to feed it or didn’t want to
raise the child alone. In fact, the guy I mentioned at the beginning of this article
his girlfriend having encouraged him to have an abortion because he was afraid of what his
religious parents would think of an illegitimate child. He believes that what he did was
moral, but some abortions are not. Worse yet, he is blind to his own hypocrisy.
Men, it’s time to be a dad
It is all too ironic that while the women have been at home raising the children, the men have
Been in politics making laws about women and their bodies. men have used
their power in politics and religion to control and dominate women by telling us
what they think we can morally do with our own bodies. Imagine the arrogance!
Let any man think he has any place at all tell me what’s legal for me to do with
my own body! That is why it is necessary that there are more women legislators and religious
leaders
I don’t see men rushing to change societal expectations of maternal responsibility.
regarding the upbringing of children. I don’t see them demanding the right to be more
responsible parents or to play a more integral role in the lives of their children. Actually yes
they did so then they would have the right to have more say on the issue of abortion. But why
Should they want things to change? They have it done in the shade. if things
changed, they would have to pull their own weight, give up part of their own career
activities, and going home at a decent hour for the child who is waiting for dinner and a loving
hug.
In short, when men begin to choose to be fathers, then they will have the right
to comment on whether women can choose to be mothers. Until then, men, your
opinion just doesn’t matter.
