You are wondering how to get back together with your ex boyfriend. It’s a horrible question to have to ask, isn’t it? Relationships don’t always go the way we hoped, and sometimes we end up with the one man we truly adore. You essentially have one chance to get it back. If you mess things up, he may regress so much that any chance of getting back together is gone forever. This is a serious matter. Your future happiness depends on it, so make sure you’re doing the right thing in your effort to make him love you back.
Understanding how to get back together with your ex boyfriend is about mastering male psychology. The number one mistake women make in an effort to rekindle a lost love is that they do it from a female perspective. If your ex-boyfriend came to you with a love poem he wrote and a dozen long-stemmed red roses, you’d probably completely forget about the breakup, right? It is such a romantic and meaningful gesture. That’s why we think that if we do something as romantic, he will come back to us. He won’t. Men don’t want romance after a breakup. It’s the last thing in the world you should do.
To stand a chance of fighting for a man to love you back, you must follow his rules. Have you noticed how cold and distant he has seemed to you lately? That’s because he’s not sure what he feels. He doesn’t want to let his guard down and let you get too close because he feels vulnerable. That’s why you’re going to do the same thing he’s doing. From this moment on you are going to act a bit cold and distant towards him as well. No more proclaiming your undying love to your ex. Those days are over.
The reason why you want to withdraw and mask what you feel is actually very simple. If you suddenly show your ex that you are not going to continually chase him in an effort to win him back, he will react to that. Every time a woman walks away from her, she is sending a very strong message to a man that suggests that she is happy alone. The fact that you’ve been groveling at her feet hasn’t worked. If you stop acting like that and instead stand tall and strong, he will see a woman who doesn’t need him anymore.
There is absolutely no reason for you to be cruel or unkind to your ex. That’s not what you should be doing at all. You should show him, in the nicest way possible, that with or without him you are a strong and independent woman. Do that and the man will trip over his own feet trying to win you back.
