When you break up with someone, your world can be completely shattered, your whole life turned upside down. Eventually you have to start thinking about going out and socializing again. Socializing when you’re single can be quite different from socializing when you’re in a relationship. It was a big concern for me when I separated from my partner of 7 years, everything had changed since I was last single, mainly the fact that all my friends were now in long-term relationships and I had no one to go with. out with I’m Only Thirty, but even in those 7 years of being in a relationship, the whole dating game had changed.
Whereas before, when you were in your early twenties, after a relationship breakup, your friends would just say don’t worry about it, forget about them and let’s party, you were never short of things to do and your friends were always outside. and about We would go out to clubs or to a bar; It would be very easy to meet people.
Things have changed since then, my friends don’t go out as much anymore, since they are all in a couple and like to do things as a couple (as we all do in that situation), like quiet drinks at each other’s houses and nice and very nice meals. occasionally one night. outside. All of that is wonderful when you’re in a relationship and it’s always good to socialize with your friends, but being single you want to have the opportunity to meet other people outside of your immediate circle of friends and that’s quite difficult if you’re with a partner all the time. .
Even though my profession is heavily involved in the internet, I never tried dating websites and I really didn’t like it, don’t get me wrong some of my friends have met their matches on their and they swear by it. But I like traditional communication in the sense of meeting people face to face, it’s more daunting for some but I find it much more fun.
So I found myself quickly adapting to the situation and you end up dating other single people from work or acquaintances that you don’t always think to socialize with, not just because they’re single (well, sometimes) but because they’re in the same situation as you and your style. of life is similar to yours.
I would advise not to turn down any social opportunities, accept them all, random nights are always the best and you never know where you will end up or who you will meet, the feeling of freedom is incredible. I quickly discovered that I loved this new lifestyle, living alone in the post-breakup time, and learned a lot about myself in that time. I had no strings attached or commitments (aside from my cat) and could come and go as I pleased, it was a really cool time in my life and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
It’s weird what you worry about after a breakup, but to me this felt like a big deal at the time, how I would deal with living alone and going out again and socializing. But these worries quickly dissipate when you go out partying.
I wrote this article for others in the same situation I was in, those worried about going out and socializing and being in the single lifestyle again is scary and daunting. I loved it again though, it was different than when I was in my twenties but in a better way, this time I had more confidence in myself to meet people and certainly had more money to do things than back then.
About a year later, I met someone who I’m very happy with, I met her at a nightclub and we have so much in common that it’s scary. Especially since she is not originally from this country, but her traditional quotes are still alive, healthy and fun.
If you find yourself in this situation, instead of initially looking at the negatives, which is very natural, try to see the positives, there are many, and the sooner you do it, the faster you will adopt your new lifestyle after the breakup. .
Have fun and take care!!
