Have you bought into the prevailing guilt trip you must be doing for others or have you entered the realm of selfishness? Do your own feelings suffer as invalids because of this? Is the health of your body worsening because you have put the feelings and views of others above your own? Are you afraid of disappointing others? Do you seek approval from others by saying yes when you really mean no?
While helping others is extremely rewarding, we cannot get caught up in trying to please others at the expense of our own needs.
If the needs and conditions of others have taken precedence over your own, if you struggle to find time to effectively and consistently address your own needs, you have entered a dangerous downward drain of physical and mental energy. It is not surprising that he is not alone.
For many, learning to say “no” at the appropriate time remains one of the most difficult words to express, mean, and stick to.
However, it is also one of the most important and empowering things you can do for your mental and physical health, the health of your self-esteem, and the level of self-confidence and self-esteem you enjoy. It’s impossible to feel good about yourself if you’ve put yourself last on your priority list.
We are allotted so much energy per day (however, we can increase our energy quota with healthy workouts) and when you focus on doing for others, we have stolen these moments. We are no longer available to ourselves, to address the needs of our own body and mind, and possibly even take advantage of a new opportunity that presents itself in the moment.
Unfortunately, when people are pressed for time and energy, one of the first things to be cut out of their busy schedule is their training session. Ironically, it’s the only thing empowered to increase energy reserves, but they’re simply too tired to take action after spending all their energy, mental and physical, on someone else’s needs.
Regardless of nationality or calling in life, your personal boundaries are what validate your own feelings and keep your self-esteem and self-worth healthy. It is vitally important that you live determinedly and authentically by those limits. If you don’t value yourself enough to address your own needs first, if you don’t take yourself seriously, how do you expect others to?
Research backs up these claims, revealing that “the harder it is for someone to say no, the more likely they are to experience increased levels of stress, feelings of exhaustion, and deep levels of depression,” eventually becoming mentally and physically exhausted. unhappy and dissatisfied.
Is that what you want for yourself?
The reality is that taking care of yourself is not selfish. Learning the art of saying “no” is not only empowering, it’s one of the healthiest things you can do for your mental and physical well-being.
After all, how do you expect to get someone else’s “cards in a row” when your own deck is shuffled?
It’s time to break the unhealthy habit of saying yes just to feel needed and accepted.
True love begins at home, with you. Valuing yourself and honoring your own worth are the best and most powerful gifts you can give yourself.
If you really want to get the most out of life, if stellar health and longevity are high on your wish list, then you need to be brave and self-respect enough to stand up for yourself and your needs without worrying about what’s coming next. others can think.
Assertiveness is a positive trait and to say that it is not to be assertive. Be assertive, honor yourself and your needs first, and don’t back down! You don’t even need a valid reason to say no. Your feelings are your validation. You are so important!
Remember, every time you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else. Is that something more than you?
Whether business or personal, saying no respectfully is a necessary life skill. The key is to balance kindness and courtesy towards others while retaining and honoring your own worth.
The very act of showing self-respect is what commands it to others! If the occasion calls for it, say no, be firm, direct and sincere. That’s when you stand in your own power!
