You are in a relationship with a good man and things are going very well. But sometimes, you can’t help but worry and wonder if things really are as good as they seem. Is your relationship perfect or are you just missing the signs of disaster? Read on to find out why you care so much about your relationship and why you need to stop, before it destroys your relationship…
There are two reasons why a woman cares so much about her relationship.
- The first reason is because she has hidden insecurities about herself. Underneath many seemingly self-assured and successful women is the secret fear that she’s not pretty, sexy, smart, kind, good enough to be loved. When you fear that you are not good enough, you tend to worry about your relationship, sometimes as a way to avoid facing your own personal problems and lack of self-esteem. It’s easier to blame, worry about your relationship and let them down, instead of looking at what you’re really afraid of.
- The second reason why women worry so much about their relationships (even when their relationship is going well), they suffer because they have a hard time coping with the uncertainty that accompanies any romantic and loving relationship. Maybe you were hurt by a previous relationship, or grew up in an environment where you saw other women get their hearts broken by another man, etc. In either case, there is a part of you that is scared and terrified of getting hurt. So you’re in a constant “alert mode,” just looking for a sign to see if the man you care about is losing interest and pulling away. You don’t want to be caught off guard by his sudden decision to cheat on you or leave the relationship.
Even if you think that your fears can protect you from being hurt by a man, think about it… Are you really happy living like this? Do you really feel safe constantly worrying about your relationship? Really stop and think about it. Because if you’re still not sure if it’s safe to leave behind your complexes and insecurities, let me explain things in another way…
By holding on to your constant feelings of worry and insecurity, you are seriously sabotaging your chances of having a great relationship with the man of your dreams. A man who loves you wants you to be happy, so at first he will try to reassure you about his feelings. But after a while, if he starts to think that he can never do enough to make you happy, he’ll withdraw and walk away from you. He withdraws because when you’re not happy, he feels like a failure. And a man can’t stay in a long-term relationship with a woman who constantly makes him feel like a failure. He won’t stay with a woman if he believes that he can’t give her the happiness that she deserves from her, even he loves you very much.
